psa: if you screenshot dunk my users and talk shit about my instance and dont even bother to like, i dont know, talk to me or report whatever you're hopped up about i might not be inclined to remain federated with you
anyway please dont screenshot dunk until, at the very least, you have exhausted several other options. preferably not at all.
we're never going to be safe if we treat each other and other admins like they're twitter jack. we have to solve problems with communication and setting boundaries.
what hapsburger said was fucked up and racist and she is absolutely not welcome back ever, and if i see her on the fedi again i'll be informing her new admin of her history with a recommendation to show her the door.
as such, the value of rebroadcasting her vile, racist diatribe to even more eyeballs is questionable enough, never mind the fucking open season on me and my instance that resulted in treating this situation like i'm, well, twitter jack
i'm being accused of... a lot of things for being displeased with being shat on by a bunch of people with an axe to grind with whom i have made repeated efforts to come to an understanding with.
i am happy to, and assuredly will continue to, address concerns people have, but i can't do anything about people who want to paint me as a villain no matter what i do. everyone has a Take about how im racist, authoritarian, not authoritarian enough, didn't do enough precog, whatever.
ultimately,i take the long view and remain consistent on my core value that the fedi needs to be better than corporate social media and we need to talk out our problems and boundaries
im sorry that this ended not-so-amicably with several people, but i cannot do anything about people not willing to work with me, respect my boundaries, reciprocate trust, or share a vision of a fediverse that isn't Corporate SNS Nightmare Part 2. 😔
@selina i dont even know what they wanted. to make a lot of people read a racist post? like it wasnt in good faith, it was an excuse to shittalk me/the coven.
@selina its because we're all poisoned by corporate social media and think escalating shit to ridiculous levels is how you solve problems
@anna anna. come on. how do you expect it to look when you pretty consistently get into arguments with the very tiny amount of not white people on fedi and portray them as being unreasonable, uncivil, or unwilling to listen to your very reasonable opinions? how does it look from the outside, anna? nobody i follow complains about being called racist as much as you do. if everyone says it smells like shit consider checking your shoes.
@anna please don't respond to this with some witty overthought bullshit! instead, please take some time and consider that you could in fact be in the wrong about what racism looks like, not the qpoc trying to tell you what's wrong.
@peach @anna i know nothing about any of this, but here is some observation from an outsider: directing someone *how* to respond in an argument means you need to cool down and rethink your goals for the conversation. You can't control how others react and you shouldn't try to. Even if you think they're wrong. K shooting off into space now this never happened baiiiii
@amina an excellent thing to do if you dont know anything about a situation is to simply not respond at all
@peach sorry but @amina is absolutely right that you would have replied with that bullshit no matter what i said. im happy to talk to you if you want to talk, but you're more interested in setting traps and trying to prove that i'm some awful racist monster or whatever and it's obvious to me and it's even obvious to someone who doesn't see the whole situation.
@peach Wow. I'm really sorry you're so upset. If you don't like my comment, please mute me.
@peach ah yes that thing that happens all the time except it doesnt
like its the same people from last time
last time i listened to their concerns and ended up taking them to heart and made amends with jovan. im very happy to be friends with him/them again and that is "reward" enough, but when it comes to the people involved here they've been shittalking me/witches relentlessly ever since.
i even like, told one of the people mad that we made up but she left it on read kept relentlessly shittalking anyway. there is nothing i can do to redeem myself in their eyes, so we are going our separate ways.
@peach alright we dont need to follow each other anymore then if you're going to pull this shit
@anna I'm totally out of the loop, but for what it's worth, I think you're doing a great job. I think your passion in creating a safe space shows in your work, and that should be worth more to people. I guess they forget you're a person too. /shrug
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