to build off this, the strategies glorified and perpetuated are:
- don't be a target (victim blaming, tacitly endorses bully's behavior)
- ask the bully to stop (acknowledge their power over you, which reinforces that their tactics work as a way to gain power)

also, sometimes bystanders are asked to intervene - this is incredibly situational, because it assumes that bullying occurs in public places, that standing up will not be punished, and that enough people will do so for it to work