to more directly address anyone upset it took me a couple days to get to this apology: it was immediately obvious that hastily jumping into things is where my fuckup started, and that i can't properly fix things by being more hasty. it was also caused by poor judgement that was worsened by a lack of sleep, which of course only got worse afterwards.

i needed a day to adjust and get off my bullshit, to sleep, and to talk with people and make plans to actually address what went wrong. it would have been a disservice to post a hasty "sorry for any offense" apology when nothing has changed.

as an addenum, it looks like things escalated quite a lot while i was writing this. im sorry it took me some time to work thorough, and i hope some of the people who defederated over this apology not existing yet will be shown this apology regardless of whether or not it changes their mind about im also sorry that ive made some flippant jokes today, what ive done is too grievous to be joking about it.

i am fully committed to keeping going, even--if not especially--knowing its going to be a lot of work to repair the damage i've done and that some of it may be permanent.

i mean it when i say i pour my heart and soul into the fediverse, but i need to back that up with actions that don't betray those words, and i have utterly failed here. for that i am truly sorry and commit to doing far, far better in the future. i plan on doing this not just by means of personal resolve, but by adding admins to who have been willing to stand up to me when i'm out of line.

in a flurry of haste and self-absorbtion, i did not in any way properly address that an absolutely abhorrent racist post was sent to people said racism targeted from my instance. my poor reaction detracted from proper redress to the people this was directed at, and to the fediverse in general for this bile originating from my instance at all. in the throes of my excessive defensiveness, i talked big about handling these situations better than twitter and wanting the fediverse to be the place where we don't have to go to last resort tactics to deal with greviances, but how i acted was absolutely antiethical to that.

i need to apologize for how i've handled the situation with a disgustingly racist toot originating from i let my ego get in the way and got unduly upset by someone not on my instance or even following me dealing with that vile toot the best they could, which was only compounded by my inattention to important details that, even if i had them right, was still a far too overly defensive and aggressive reaction to someone who had received abuse at the hands of my instance.

i haven't been consistently posting any of my cross stitch work this year. i've only finished two pieces that i haven't posted so that's not too bad. i want too but i'm just. so tired so i don't

listen. u kno the earth being a globe is some fake fuckin shit ofc, but did you ever stop to coisider people actually believe cdroms are real??? 🤣 🤣 🤣

yeah you can retreive hundreds of megs of data by shining a tiny flashlight on a fucking shiny plexiglass disc real fast, sure, whatever you say :crydab: :crydab: :crydab:

"Listening" requires a certain amount of empathy. You're not automatically "listening" to a marginalised group just because you read their posts or follow them. You listen when you check your priviliege and try to see the world from their perspective.

how THE FUCK am i only just now learning that Travis Barker was originally in the Aquabats??

I get that roleplayers can often overwhelm a server and that sucks, but people who cry that roleplayers ruin an MMO by being "cringe" are so weird.
"Yeah I hate walking somewhere and seeing people having fun and bringing the game to life, it sucks. I wish nobody talked ever and everyone was indistinguishable from a sufficiently advanced AI."

It isn't always better for the environment to buy food locally. How it was farmed and how it was imported matter too. Most of the carbon footprint of groceries is from how they were grown and not how they were transported.

If it's in season where you live, then locally grown is best. If it's out of season, you need to consider a more nuanced point of view.

accidentally admitted into heaven because of a bureaucratic error

If angels are fallible then this will have happened at least once in the Christian mythos

@gaelfling welcome to! :witchywink2: i hope you enjoy your stay, let me or @berserkx33 or @fun know if you have any questions!

Times I should've realized I was queer: When my favorite manga ever is about a werewolf turns into a woman during the full moon and the vampire playboy who loves him no matter what his form.

all slaveowners and nazis should be brutally murdered

terfs get the wall

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